Points raised and discussed during a dialogue on gender two weeks ago:

Women are not allowed to be angry and when they are they're being Emotional, a Drama Queen, Ridiculous.

Men do not articulate their feelings as well as women do because they are raised to be detached from them. Some sort of dependence on the woman to voice the man's emotions and to keep a level head may form. Ironic: depending on the woman to articulate his feelings, but labelling her Emotional when she speaks her own.

Men feel alienated by the Women's Movement and feel it is unfair that they are automatically pegged as sexual maniacs, self absorbed, assholes upon first meeting some feminists.

There is no Right feminism for everyone. Each woman has different needs and if I went in to the Ebony Women For Social Change weekly meeting and tried to impose my views on them instead of listening .. I would just be some loud mouth white woman who needs to sit her ass down.

In an effort to give women their space, some men might reduce theirs and there is some type of role reversal and the man loses his voice.

Balance is hard and sometimes we fall into our roles because they are comfortable and easy....

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I wonder what it's like to be a man, to walk into a room full of men and not be on guard. I went with Taylor and John to the hospital tonight because Taylor wasn't feeling well. When we left she walked by some guy on a bike and he just turned his whole body and stared at her ass. When he turned around he got a nasty look in the eye from me. I checked as I walked past him and he was slouching on his motor bike.

I told Taylor I have been feeling small recently - low to the ground. She said she sees the opposite. I feel it sometimes ..mammoth and strong. I think I'm just tired.



For anyone who's reading this who has had to leave this place, Do you remember what it's like?